Masturbation and premature ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation

Overview

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common complaints that males−especially those in their younger years−have about their sexuality. A common definition of premature ejaculation is the inability to delay ejaculation until it is mutually desirable by both partners. This definition is somewhat subjective, and the exact moment of desirability can vary from a few minutes to several hours, depending on whom you ask. The duration of time that a male is able to delay his orgasm is not really the issue when defining and identifying premature ejaculation–the real question is whether or not both partners are satisfied by the sexual encounter.

Ejaculation as Part of the Sexual Experience

Since it is a somewhat subjective concept, premature ejaculation is heavily influenced by an individual’s outlook. There is no defined length of time at which an orgasm is labeled as premature or not. Premature ejaculation is simply an ejaculation before it is desired. Sexuality and sexual behavior are very fluid and can vary depending on ones goals. If your goal is to have an enjoyable time by yourself or with your partner(s), then the entire sexual experience should be your focus, not just the brief seconds of orgasm. Focusing on the whole sexual process allows one to discover that all parts of the process can be fulfilling and gratifying experiences, even with a quick orgasm, a delayed orgasm, or no orgasm at all.

Some people may believe that in order for males to please their partners and enjoy their own sexual experience, they should last for long periods of time. This is one of several myths surrounding male sexual performance and premature ejaculation. There are many other forms of sexual stimulation, such as kissing, oral sex, and manual stimulation, which can be extremely pleasurable for both partners and may extend the variety and length of a sexual experience. Another myth about premature ejaculation is that rushed masturbation can cause this difficulty. While repeated experience with rushed masturbation can contribute to premature ejaculation, masturbation, as described in the Start-Stop Technique below, actually teaches better orgasmic control.

Orgasmic control, which can increase the enjoyment of a sexual encounter, is very closely tied to the topic of premature ejaculation. There are several therapies that can help males learn better orgasmic control so that they can last longer during a sexual encounter. Specific sexual positions can be helpful when trying to delay ejaculation. Muscle tension (myotonia) in the legs and pelvic region leads to greater chances of orgasm, so any position that requires less muscle tone can help delay ejaculation. The female-on-top (or other-partner-on-top) position is very useful for allowing the male to relax and focus on the feelings of his sexual response. The side-by-side position is also useful, since it requires less muscle tension for the male to perform.

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