Overcoming premature ejaculation

How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation

Overcome Premature EjaculationIf you suffer from premature ejaculation, the first thing which you need to realize is that you’re not alone—and there may be nothing physiologically wrong with you. According to a study by the National Health and Social Life survey, around a full third of men in the US have stated that they feel they come too quickly during sex. PE is best defined as a condition in which a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner would prefer. Some researchers have attempted to delineate a particular time period which is considered “premature, ”—commonly within two minutes of penetration. Being as Alfred Kinsey’s famous studies in the 1940s demonstrated that more than three quarters of men ejaculate within two minutes of penetration in over 50 percent of their sexual encounters, however, this would seem to simply define normal sexual function for the vast majority of men.

How do you overcome premature ejaculation? First, realize that you’re normal. Women sometimes become frustrated with their partners for coming sooner than they do, or for preferring shorter sexual encounters than they do. This is just a standard difference in male and female physiology and psychology (with possible evolutionary roots), and it shouldn’t be a cause for blame. Likewise, you shouldn’t be blaming yourself, or holding yourself up to unrealistic expectations. Aside from simply being a normal human being, there are plenty of other psychological factors which could be playing a role in your situation. Stress, depression, performance anxiety, sexual repression, and underconfidence can all lead to premature ejaculation, as can a lack of resolution in interpersonal issues.

Dealing with Stress

If you have a lot of stress or if there are unresolved issues in your relationship, consider starting out by trying to deal with those issues first. If there are ways you can remove stress from your life, do so. If you can tackle some of those problems in your relationship which you’ve been avoiding, work on that. You may find that simply by removing stress from your life that your PE problems take care of themselves. PE rarely has a physiological cause. For most men it is possible to overcome premature ejaculation without medical intervention.

In some cases, therapy may be helpful in resolving PE—particularly when there are unresolved issues in the relationship which you don’t feel like you can deal with on your own. Sometimes it takes someone who isn’t directly invested in a situation to make sense of it and help each person to resolve his or her feelings and move on.

Building Confidence

Since premature ejaculation usually is a psychological problem and not a physiological one, it can easily become self perpetuating as a man loses confidence in himself. Once you’ve experienced premature ejaculation a number of times, you can start to feel doubt in your sexual prowess and feel like you have no control. This loss of a sense of control can lead to actual loss of control—the more you feel like you can’t do anything about your circumstances, the more difficult they’ll be.

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