Overcoming Sports performance anxiety

How To Overcome Fear and Anxiety In Sports?

sports performance anxietyEvery athlete experiences fear and anxiety, especially before big games or matches. It is normal and healthy. If used in a positive way it can help you focus and be pumped up with energy.

But for some of your athletes I am sure it causes them to freeze up and miss opportunities. I worked with a pole vaulter who was so fearful she eventually was unable to run down the track!

How Do You Help Youth Athletes Overcome Fear and Anxiety In Sports?

The enemy of mental toughness is fear. Fear of failure.sports performance anxiety Anyone who has coached for more than about two weeks sees this in their athletes — correct? Fear is nothing more than your unconscious mind, which I was talking about before, releasing some chemicals in your body making you feel something. So we need to start breaking down and helping these kids understand what fear is.

They’ve got this fear, which makes them think their world is coming to an end. But if you were to explain to them, “Listen, John. You know what? You’re just experiencing some chemicals right now.” They are like, “What?”

sports performance anxietySo you explain that what happens is your body releases some chemicals that make you feel something. Have you ever felt like you’ve got butterflies in your stomach? Are there any butterflies there? No. What is it?

They are just some chemicals in your body that are latching on to the cells of your stomach lining and giving you the sensation that there are butterflies. Isn’t that interesting? The meaning you want to give them is it is just some chemicals doing their thing and it is nothing to worry about.

sports performance anxietyYou know if you feel pressured, it literally feels like a vice grip is over their head. So people get headaches and they feel tight. Those are just chemicals too. It doesn’t mean anything. So I am all about helping these kids demystify what fear is for starters. That’s is critical to helping them let go of fear.

They eventually will start seeing fear as just some thing my body does, that’s all. And if you want to question them about it, ask them, What do you think it means? Generally they answer, “Well it means I am scare – scared of disappointing my coach, my parents, my teammates. I am afraid of embarrassment.”

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Gay Men on Antidepressants with sexual anxieties

by hankhi

Any other gay men out there in the same boat? I am a GWM 41 who came out at the same time as HIV/AIDS appeared. Unlike most of my peers I was terrified and although openly gay.....stayed on the sidelines as far as sex went. I let my behavior become a phobia and along with alot of other anxieties I experience and some depression thrown in for good measure found myself at a complete nervous breakdown at 28. I have been on ssri antidepressants since and have made enormous strides (espicially using Ration Emotive Behavior Therapy...mostly on my own) I take a half of a Celexa daily. It probably isn't even working anymore but the placebo effect is amazing

Why do men take it so personally?

by unselfemployed

Sometimes we're tired
Sometimes we're distracted
Sometimes we're dealing with PMS/hormones
Sometimes the foreplay wasn't long enough
It's not the ride'em pony outside the supermarket, where you put in your quarter (or your dick) and the pony jumps up and down for a few minutes.
Sometimes we just enjoy the closeness
Sometimes we just enjoy making you happy
But do NOT add "performance anxiety" to the sexual menu: "Not only do I want sex daily, it has to be GREAT sex, that leaves you sweaty and screaming

What I've been told by some men

by KeepItMovin

Who are in their 40's is that they no longer have the stamina and sexual appetite that they once had as younger men. Also, stress, decreasing testosterone levels, high expectations to perform, etc, can really have a huge impact on a man's libido and sexual performance.
Does he have a high-stress job? Does he have any health problems? Is he taking any medications? These are all areas of his life that you need to consider for they all can impact his sexual performance.
During sex, have you told him what you want? Have you ever showed him how to touch you, etc. etc.? If you have, and he seems to pull back or not seem interested, it may be time to address any sexual issues with him

Mechanical and vanilla with no foreplay

by pooxxx

What happens when you express your need for cuddling, fondling, ego-boosting?
Are there things he's tried in bed (maybe when you were first together) that you reacted strongly to in a negative way? That discourages experimental behavior and kills passion. Is he intimidated by your vigor and is he afraid that you'll want more than he can give? Does that give him performance anxiety of sorts?
Rather than assuming the problem is with him (low sex drive, attracted to men, etc) take a look at your relationship and how things have really been over the time you've been together

Men are visualists

by bizzy_beez

So it's not uncommon for you to have to get a mental picture of soemthing that turns you on to orgasm. It sounds like you might be having some mild anxiety when you're with a person physically. You might be stressed about your performance or focusing too much on the grand finale. Once you get with a partner that you are comfortable with physically and emotionally, your anxiety should subside. good luck.

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